There is the principle of Separation in regard to being in good health and to overcome sickness and dis-ease. The concept is we need to not allow what people say or do to affect our well being. So we separate the person from what they say or do. It is combined with the principle of WHO. We need to ask ourselves WHO is speaking. It could be the accuser of the brethren is influencing what the person is saying. It could be the person’s past experiences is influencing what they are saying. It could be our own iniquities, past experiences, or Satan is influencing what we are hearing.
If we separate the person from what they say or do then we are less likely to be negatively influenced by them and we are less likely to have attitudes and mindsets that lead to sickness and dis-ease. For example, we are less likely to have self-pity, anger, bitterness, resentment, unforgiveness, hatred of them or ourselves, etc. So clearly, it is very important to separate what a person says or does from who the person is, especially if it is someone who is close to us like a spouse.
We need to make sure we have a balanced approach to the principle of Separation. We are not giving the person a free pass. It does not mean we accept or condone their sinful behavior. Separation does not mean we do not hold individuals accountable for what they say or do. The principle of Separation is not co-dependency. There are consequences for sinful behavior. At times major consequences.
Separation in no way means a person should stay in an abusive situation, telling themselves that ‘I need to stay in this situation because it is not really the person, it is the devil, so I just need to love them more and they will change.’
You heard from your parents all your life that you are dumb and will not amount to anything. You believe everything they have said, thus you feel unloved, have self-pity, and filled with hate. It is affecting your health. You should have separated what they said from what is true about you, you are precious in the sight of Father God and have value and worth. Thankfully, you start to believe the truth of who you are in Christ. You then get into a relationship with a person who speaks the same words to you as your parents spoke to you as a child. Applying the principles of Separation and WHO, you realize it is the words of your parents being spoken through the person, the person is being used by Satan. So, instead of being filled with self-pity, resentment, and hate, you forgive and love the person in spite of what they say. You do not let their words and actions affect your well being-your health.
However, over time the person does not change. In fact they get worse and worse and it becomes more than words that they speak. They manifest sinful actions and behavior towards you. Because of the principles of Separation and WHO you continue to choose to not believe what they say about you. You know it is from the pit of hell. But for your own well being you must make the choice to physically separate from them, maybe to the point to totally avoid them, break relationship with them. You hold them accountable for their actions.
This is a balanced approach to the concept of Separation.
There are going to be people around us that say things that are hurtful to us. We cannot separate ourselves from every human being on earth. But we can Separate ourselves from what they say. We do not have to believe what they say. We do not have to allow what they say to affect our well being. However, there are some people that we may need to separate from physically for the sake of our well being. Our goal is to Be in Health.